Therapy for People Who Feel Stuck Even After Trying Everything

Thirty-Five Years in the Room

I have been working with men and families for 35 years.

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In that time, I’ve sat with men who didn’t know why they were angry; fathers who couldn’t reach their sons and daughters; couples trying to repair what silence had slowly broken; and adult children still untangling the families they were raised in. I’ve worked in community counselling centres, university psychological health clinics, elementary and secondary schools, military installations, substance abuse treatment centres, and hospital settings — and for many years now, in private practice in Coquitlam and online across British Columbia.

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The writing on this site comes directly from that work. Not from textbooks or research summaries, but from what I’ve actually watched happen across 35 years of sitting with people in difficulty. The patterns are real. The language is the language men actually use. The insight is hard-won.

Training and Approach

I hold a Master of Science in Psychology with a focus on Marriage, Family, and Child Therapy from California State University, Chico. My clinical training spans the Satir Growth Model–Transformational Family Systems Therapy (ongoing since 1994), Internal Family Systems, Somatic Transformation Therapy, Enactment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy.

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My work in the Satir Growth Model has earned international recognition, grounded in extensive experience as a practioner, consultant, and educator. I previously served as Vice-President of the Satir Institute for Human Potential — the professional body that carries forward Virginia Satir’s work in Counselling Psychology. If you’ve encountered Satir’s model in your own therapy or training, you’ll recognise the framework that runs through much of my writing.

Credentials and Licensing

• Registered Clinical Counsellor (RCC) #13218 — BC Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC)

• Registered Clinical Counsellor – Approved Clinical Supervisor (RCC-ACS) — BCACC

• Certified Canadian Counsellor (CCC) #5926 — Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA)

•  Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) #36736 — California Board of Behavioural Science Examiners

•  Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) #LF 60196202 State of Washington      Department of Health

• Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) #1412 Board of Social Work Examiners and Professional Counselors, State of Montana

•  Military Family Life Counsellor (MFLC) Department of Defense

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​I am also a member in good standing of the British Columbia Association of Clinical Counsellors (BCACC), Canadian Counselling and Psychotherapy Association (CCPA) and the California Association of Marriage, Family Therapists (CAMFT). 

Military, Veterans, First Responders and Specialist Work

​A significant part of my practice has been with military personnel, veterans, first responders and their families. I am a trainer and consultant for the National Office of Refugee Resilience, a Military and Family Life Consultant, and a team member of the Veteran’s Transition Program (Canada). Having served on more than 23 military assignments, I understand the unique pressures, transitions, and losses that military service, emergency response, and healthcare professions bring to the men, women, and families who bear them.

I also work with corporate and business clients, including performance enhancement that has extended to professional sports — including NASCAR.

The Book and the Podcast

I am the bestselling author of Leap, But How Will I Live, Eat or Pay for Gas? — a book that takes seriously the questions men actually ask when they’re standing at a threshold and don’t know whether to cross it.

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The Art and Science of Transformation is my podcast. It has been listened to in 24 countries. The conversations there cover the same ground as the writing on this site — what it takes to change, what gets in the way, and what becomes possible when a man finally decides to move.

Who I Work With

Most of the men who find their way to this work aren’t searching for ‘therapy.’ They’re searching their symptoms, the distance from their kids, the silence in the house, the rage that arrives before they understand it, the feeling that something is broken and they don’t know how to fix it.

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That’s the work. Fathers trying to understand what their children actually need from them. Adult sons still carrying what their own fathers never gave them. Couples who have lost their way back to each other and aren’t sure there is one.

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And children. Adolescents. Families in the middle of something hard. Individuals sitting with grief, or anxiety, or trauma, or a relationship with a substance that has gotten ahead of them.

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The writing on this site is for these same people. If you found it while you were looking for something else — answers about your kid, your relationship, your anger, your distance — it’s not a coincidence. You are in the right place.

Where I Work

My office is in Coquitlam. I see clients throughout the Tri-Cities and Lower Mainland — Coquitlam, Port Coquitlam, Port Moody, Burnaby, and New Westminster. I also offer telephone and video counselling to individuals, couples, and families anywhere in British Columbia and across Canada.

Working With Me

I work with individuals, couples, families, children, adolescents, and groups. Areas of practice include relational healing, men’s issues, fatherhood, PTSD and trauma, grief and loss, anger resolution, anxiety and depression, parenting, communication, military and veterans transitions, substance use, life transitions, and personal growth.

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If you’re ready to start, or you want to ask a question first, the contact page is the place to begin.