Therapy for People Who Feel Stuck Even After Trying Everything
Relational psychotherapy for individuals and couples in Coquitlam and online across British Columbia.
When Therapy Hasn’t Worked or Hasn’t Lasted
Many people who find their way here have already tried therapy.They may have gained insight, understood their patterns, and made real efforts to change, but still find themselves returning to the same reactions, relationship dynamics, or internal struggles.
Often, this is not about effort or motivation.It is about working at the level where these patterns are actually formed and maintained.
This work focuses on that deeper level, where change tends to be slower, but more lasting.
Thirty-Five Years in the Room
I have been working with men and families for 35 years.
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In that time, I’ve sat with men who didn’t know why they were angry; fathers who couldn’t reach their sons and daughters; couples trying to repair what silence had slowly broken; and adult children still untangling the families they were raised in. I’ve worked in community counselling centres, university psychological health clinics, elementary and secondary schools, military installations, substance abuse treatment centres, and hospital settings — and for many years now, in private practice in Coquitlam and online across British Columbia.
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The writing on this site comes directly from that work. Not from textbooks or research summaries, but from what I’ve actually watched happen across 35 years of sitting with people in difficulty. The patterns are real. The language is the language men actually use. The insight is hard-won.
For Men Who Feel Stuck in Themselves or in Relationships
Most of the men who find their way to this work aren’t searching for ‘therapy.’ They’re searching their symptoms, the distance from their kids, the silence in the house, the rage that arrives before they understand it, the feeling that something is broken and they don’t know how to fix it.
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That’s the work. Fathers trying to understand what their children actually need from them. Adult sons still carrying what their own fathers never gave them. Couples who have lost their way back to each other and aren’t sure there is one.
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And children. Adolescents. Families in the middle of something hard. Individuals sitting with grief, or anxiety, or trauma, or a relationship with a substance that has gotten ahead of them.
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The writing on this site is for these same people. If you found it while you were looking for something else — answers about your kid, your relationship, your anger, your distance — it’s not a coincidence. You are in the right place.
Who I Work With and What I Help With
I work with individuals, couples, families, children, adolescents, and groups. Areas of practice include relational healing, men’s issues, fatherhood, PTSD and trauma, grief and loss, anger resolution, anxiety and depression, parenting, communication, military and veterans transitions, substance use, life transitions, and personal growth.​If you’re ready to start, or you want to ask a question first, the contact page is the place to begin.
​A significant part of my practice has been with military personnel, veterans, first responders and their families. I am a trainer and consultant for the National Office of Refugee Resilience, a Military and Family Life Consultant, and a team member of the Veteran’s Transition Program (Canada). Having served on more than 23 military assignments, I understand the unique pressures, transitions, and losses that military service, emergency response, and healthcare professions bring to the men, women, and families who bear them.
I also work with corporate and business clients, including performance enhancement that has extended to professional sports — including NASCAR.
My office is in Coquitlam. I see clients throughout the Tri-Cities and Lower Mainland — Coquitlam, Port Coquitlam, Port Moody, Burnaby, and New Westminster. I also offer telephone and video counselling to individuals, couples, and families anywhere in British Columbia and across Canada.
Beyond the Therapy Room
I am the bestselling author of Leap, But How Will I Live, Eat or Pay for Gas? — a book that takes seriously the questions men actually ask when they’re standing at a threshold and don’t know whether to cross it.​The Art and Science of Transformation is my podcast. It has been listened to in 24 countries. The conversations there cover the same ground as the writing on this site — what it takes to change, what gets in the way, and what becomes possible when a man finally decides to move.